#15 DNA. 52 Ancestors in a Year

#15  DNA.  52 Ancestors in a Year

I embraced the DNA concept when it began and quickly submitted my husband’s DNA as well as mine.  Surely DNA would someday help in breaking through the brick walls of Shaffner, Kurtz and Gabel ancestors.  Since my husband had ancestors that immigrated from Russia, originally Germans that immigrated to the Volga region, and that ancestry is particularly hard to research, I just knew DNA would help.   And those Pennsylvania Dutch ancestors in Pennsylvania would surely leave DNA that would link me to ancestors.  I certainly didn’t think about non-paternal events!  My thoughts were on DNA from a long time ago. 

Imagine my surprise one morning when my husband had a new first cousin that shared matches with his paternal side. As well as shared matches with other known first cousins.   It is a big family and I thought I knew them all or at least their names.  This name was unknown, so I quickly sent a message to the administrator of the account.  She responded with information of an adoption and the name of the birth mother.  Yes, he had an aunt by that name, but the location of the adoption was miles away and states away from where she lived at the time.  It simply couldn’t be true.  But the family is good at secrets.  I questioned a few who might have known but they were shocked too at the discovery.  The typical  responses were expected; such as, no way my sister would have done that, to DNA is wrong. 

Why was the birth mother at this location at the time of birth?  Since all the players are deceased and those who might have known were deceased, it was difficult to unearth.  My mother-in-law remembered one pertinent detail.  The birth mother had lived with her mother’s brother and his wife while she was growing up.  I quickly added that family line to my Ancestry Family Tree.  A shaking leaf appeared for another uncle, her mother’s brother living in the location of the adoption!  Finally an explanation!  “Shaking leaves” can be good!”

The final information came from another person who had heard of my search.  She told me in confidence, that one of the birth mother’s sisters had told her of the child given up for adoption.  I was honored on Mother’s Day of 2018 to inform the adoptee that we had confirmed her birth mother.

I created a collage of pictures of the family, including aunts, uncles and first cousins.  There is a definite family resemblance.  

I have been able to furnish the “new 1st Cousin” with history of her family.  What a joy for her to discover she had family after 71 years of wondering.  

There are still some unanswered questions and hopefully we will find the answers.  

I keep wondering about the birth mother.  Knowing her economic circumstances in 1947 and unmarried, I understand the why.  Knowing the birth mother, I suspect it was a tough decision and one she carried in her heart for life.  I think she “knows” of our discovery and is now at peace.  

We have not met the new “first cousin”, but look forward to her visit in the summer of 2019.